When a couple first starts talking about separating, if they have kids, it’s common for them to worry about how the dissolution of their relationship is going to impact them. How easy this process is for your children will depend on how diligently you, as a parent, work to make this transition as seamless for them as possible.
Perhaps one of the most important things you and your ex can do to keep a happy home is to maintain an open line of communication between the two of you. Even if all you and your ex can muster the strength to do is to email one another, showing that you can communicate with him or her in a level-headed way can go a long ways in establishing a sense of normalcy from your child’s perspective.
Speaking of perspective, it’s important to let your child know that they’re not alone when it comes to having divorced parents. It can help to point out other kids in the neighborhood, their friends or the children of celebrities they may know that have successfully overcome having their parents split up as a point of reference.
Establishing a set of common ground rules with your ex for your child to follow is important. In a divorce, children can often be used as pawns, where one parent comes off as permissive and the other seems like the stickler for rules. If you and your ex remain on the same page in establishing rules, you’ll notice the transition between homes is much less of a contentious process.
Ensuring that you create an environment in which your child is encouraged to maintain positive relationships with their grandparents, cousins, aunts and uncles on both sides is important. It gives them more people to talk though complicated feelings with.
Finally, although it’s easier said than done, taking caution to remove jealousy from the equation is also important. You don’t want to put your child in a place where they’re your information gatherer, responsible for getting the dirt on dad’s new girlfriend.
Many separated couples look to mediation as a way to talk through and resolve differences outside of a contentious courtroom. If you’re considering leaving your spouse, then a Houston divorce attorney can provide guidance as to whether mediation is right for your particular case.
Source: Chicago Tribune, “Ways to make divorce easier on kids,” accessed Aug. 08, 2017